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Have you ever finished a coaching session wondering whether you actually helped? Your client didn’t experience a breakthrough or leave with a clear action step. Instead, you listened, asked thoughtful questions, and made room for difficult feelings. Coaching for Spiritual Formation invites us to consider that meaningful transformation doesn’t always look like forward movement.

In this episode of Professional Christian Coaching Today, Kim Avery and Chris McCluskey explore how understanding a person’s spiritual journey can transform the way we coach. They also examine how coaches can recognize God’s work beneath the surface and resist the temptation to rush the process.

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Quick Summary

• Understand the stages of spiritual growth and how they influence coaching conversations.
• Recognize the difference between outward productivity and inward spiritual transformation.
• Identify warning signs such as burnout, false guilt, and excessive self-judgment.
• Create spacious, nonjudgmental environments for clients navigating difficult seasons.
• Develop greater self-awareness and learn to trust the Holy Spirit’s work in the coaching process.

What You’ll Discover in This Episode

Spiritual formation is a lifelong, holistic process through which our hearts, minds, and spirits become more like Jesus Christ. As Chris and Kim explain, this transformation involves both the work of the Holy Spirit and our intentional participation.

However, people experience different seasons along their spiritual journeys. Drawing on James Fowler’s stages of faith development and the book The Critical Journey, Chris introduces a helpful framework for understanding those seasons.

Think of it like a map at the mall. The map doesn’t tell you where you must go. Instead, it helps you understand where you are. Similarly, awareness of spiritual development helps coaches meet clients where they actually are rather than where the coach thinks they should be.

Kim brings this framework to life through two coaching scenarios involving pastors. One is experiencing ministry growth and abundant opportunities. The other is struggling with discouragement, exhaustion, and questions about God’s presence.

Although their circumstances are very different, both need coaching that recognizes what’s happening beneath the surface.

Essential Insights for Christian Coaches

1. Recognize the spiritual season beneath the circumstances.

A client experiencing ministry success may need help discerning God’s invitations amid abundant opportunities. Meanwhile, someone experiencing disappointment may need space to question their calling and relationship with God.

Therefore, listen for more than the immediate problem. Consider what may be happening in the client’s relationship with God, assuming spiritual exploration fits the coaching agreement.

2. Resist confusing productivity with spiritual maturity.

Christian coaches often work with people who are passionate about serving others. However, good intentions and meaningful ministry opportunities can sometimes lead to burnout, false guilt, and unrealistic expectations.

Pay attention to how clients balance their commitments, relationships, physical well-being, and spiritual lives. Not every good opportunity is their opportunity. Sometimes faithful stewardship means saying no.

3. Make room for difficult questions.

When clients experience spiritual struggles, they may wonder whether they misunderstood God’s calling or somehow disappointed Him. These questions deserve room to breathe.

Kim emphasizes the importance of creating spacious, unhurried, nonjudgmental environments. Rather than rushing toward encouragement or easy answers, allow clients to explore what is genuinely happening.

A question for reflection: When a client expresses uncertainty, discouragement, or spiritual struggle, what happens inside you? Do you become uncomfortable and feel compelled to fix the situation, or can you remain present with them?

Key Takeaways to Strengthen Your Coaching

• Meet people where they are. Understand their current spiritual season without trying to push them into another.
• Adapt your questions. Ask questions that reflect the client’s actual experience rather than following a predetermined approach.
• Listen beneath the surface. Notice how circumstances may be affecting a person’s relationship with God.
• Watch for unhealthy patterns. Recognize burnout, false guilt, judgmental attitudes, and excessive striving.
• Trust the process. Remember that the Holy Spirit is at work, even when visible progress seems limited.

How Can Christian Coaches Apply These Lessons?

Christian coaches can apply spiritual formation principles by listening for the client’s current spiritual season, asking questions that fit their experience, and creating space for honest exploration. Rather than rushing toward solutions, coaches can remain present, manage their own reactions, and trust the Holy Spirit’s ongoing work.

Next Steps

Developing greater sensitivity to spiritual formation can deepen both your coaching practice and your personal walk with God. Professional Christian Coaching Institute (PCCI) offers a 10-week Coaching for Spiritual Transformation course taught by Kim Avery, combining professional coaching expertise with spiritual direction insights.

If you’d like to explore this course or have questions about Christian coach training, ICF-accredited certification, or credentialing, contact an Academic Advisor. We’d love to help you discern your next step.